In society today, I see a trend of people accepting less than they truly deserve and actually criticizing others for wanting more for themselves. Often they settle because of low personal self-esteem, insecurity, feeling damaged, or even out of fear of being alone. This behavior not only hurts the one doing the settling but ultimately hurts the one being settled for. This is wrong for everyone.  We need to step back and evaluate ourselves. Ask ourselves why would we think so little of ourselves that we would be okay settling for something or someone we knew from the start wasn’t right for us. The important thing is to not ignore the red flags.  If you see red flags in a situation be sure you are paying close attention to them and not just brushing them aside.  We all have intuition we just rarely acknowledge it.  If you are settling for a person in the end that person is and you will get hurt because one or both of you will eventually move on.  Focus on your needs and be a little selfish as in the end you want to be with someone that wants you happy and you want them happy as well.