I have this theory of déjà vu. I believe before we are born we are shown many “moments” in our life that we will eventually reach. These moments will happen at some point in our lives but it is truly our choice how we get to them. I see it like a clam shell of sorts. The base of the shell is the point we are trying to reach and every time we reach that moment we are given a flash of the memory as a way to know we have reached that moment. Each time we have this flash we are then given the choice of “roads” to take to get to the next one. You are basically standing at the top of the clam shell with many choices of roads to take. Some are shorter with a few bumps in the road and some are longer but no matter which road you chose at that moment, you are inevitably going to reach that “moment”. Have you ever noticed that sometimes you have déjà vu within days of each other and other times you don’t have one for years? I believe that is because the shorter road was chosen and you made it to that”moment” quicker than if you were to have taken a longer road. We all have choices in life. It is up to us what roads we take. Even when bad things happen to us we chose if those things will destroy us or if they will make us stronger. Chose your road and remember there is a great moment to come, you just have to be sure you chose wisely and get there the best way you can. Even the long roads can be the fun ones if you enjoy the journey. Never regret choices you have made. Learn from your mistakes and grow from them.
I have been thinking a lot lately about why certain people seem to just “mesh” better than others. A friend sent me a link to a Personality Quiz and I was truly amazed how well it described me. The one part that I found to hit home the most were these two paragraphs:
“ESFPs love communicating with other people and can spend hours upon hours chatting about various topics. There is no clearer tell-tale of an ESFP than the fact that someone has just spent the last hour talking about everything but the topic that was supposed to be the main reason for the conversation. Not surprisingly, this personality type tends to be very popular in the company of extroverted types.
ESFP personalities live in the world of opportunities and savor the pleasures, dramas and ideas that life throws at them. They are immersed in a never-ending performance, trying to cheer other people up. ESFPs are extremely talented at making other people feel good and excited, and they enjoy this immensely. The earthly and often unique wit of ESFPs is a perfect symbol of their playfulness.”
When I read this I actually stopped and reread it again. These words truly seems to explain to me why I write this Blog and why I love to talk to so many different types of people.
Here is the link to the Quiz if you are interested to take it for yourself: www.16personalities.com
I have truly found this information enlightening and has made me realize we are all destined to be something. We just need to take the time to look inside ourselves and tap into our true calling. I firmly believe I am meant to be working with people and discussing my opinions openly. What are you meant to be doing? Are you following your dreams? Or are you just getting by?
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SEX…Why is that such a taboo word? When are we as society going to realize the benefits of this amazing act and stop judging each other? One thing I always taught my children is that sex is not something to take for granted but to enjoy every minute you get. From the beginning to the climax and even the moments after. We need to escape from ourselves during sex. I have found recently that most people are just going through the motions and not truly letting go, due to the fear of being judged.
I talk very openly about sex and some think that is crazy. I am not ashamed of it and I believe by hiding it is saying it is a bad thing. When you truly enjoy something you talk about it right? When I played softball I talked about it and told people what it was I enjoyed about it. I would teach those who wanted to know how I did certain things. Just like with Crafts and Cooking. So if I can talk to people about those things, why can’t I talk as openly about sex? I feel that my openness has opened others’ eyes a bit and this is what I enjoy doing.
When we give ourselves permission to enjoy the pleasures of sex we find that there are so many benefits to it:
I don’t know about you but these are very good reasons to enjoy the benefits of sex. If you don’t have a partner in your life, there is truly nothing wrong with self-pleasure. If you don’t already you need to start. The benefits truly outweigh the negatives you could possibly think of. I know that by letting go of inhibitions during intimacy many doors open. You burn calories, reduce your stress, improve blood pressure, oh yes and have a fantastic orgasm. Well isn’t that a benefit? If you have ever let go and had a real orgasm you completely understand what I mean and if you haven’t you have got to do it at least once. 🙂 We will talk about this in more detail in Posts to come but just take my advice on this, the first step is opening up and “allowing” yourself to enjoy all of it. Alone or with your partner. The first step is telling yourself that what you are feeling is GOOD.
I am a huge believer in toys, whether they are for you alone or for you and your partner. Why do I said that you ask? Why do kids play with toys? To spark their imagination right? Bringing a toy into the bedroom allows you to spark that imagination. Whatever your comfort level is where you start. If you aren’t comfortable with dildos or clit stimulators then you may want to start with role play first. Buy a mask, a costume, a sexy outfit, or a blindfold. If you are alone, start by putting on a Blindfold during masturbation. I know, I know…What? I am telling you, try it. Male or Female can benefit from this. Wearing a blindfold intensifies the other senses and enables you to shut out the visual stimulus. It will enable you to relax and enjoy yourself. You will feel silly at first. You need to let go and enjoy it. No one can see you, so don’t hold back.
Remember you are in control of your wants and desires. Don’t allow others to judge you for what you enjoy. Those that judge are only envious of the fact that you are able to let go and accept this thing so many others consider Taboo. Take the steps with me to open the eyes of those around us and show each other that sex is not bad, it is actually a great thing and you need to know what you enjoy before you can enjoy it with anyone else. Think about that next time you are feeling dirty because you start to think about sex more often than you do now. Open yourself up to the possibilities and again the benefits. You don’t have to be ashamed because you actually enjoy the pleasures of sex. Sex is NOT Taboo, it is EMPOWERMENT!!