When you are an adult you have the right to decide who you have sex with. It is no one but you and the person you choose to be with’s business. Be smart and safe, but at the end of the day it is between the two of you. Why do we as a society make people feel shame for wanting to be consenting adults whether it is for one night or for the rest of your life. We all should feel the freedom to make these choices on our own and not feel guilty when we do. Just be sure to have an open line of communication with the person you are engaging in sex with and be sure to take proper precautions to be safe. There are various types of sex so if you are comfortable with sharing yourself to someone…Damn it that is your choice. At the end of the day, enjoy the moment but don’t regret your choice after. If it wasn’t what you expected then it isn’t what you expected. Move on and make the next choice a better on. When you are an adult you have to make your own decisions in life, don’t allow society to tell you what is right. Dig deep inside yourself and I believe you will know what it right and if you choose wrong you learn from it. Have fun and live life without shame and regrets. Sex is healthy and holding it back is not always good. I jokingly say, “DSB (Deadly Sperm Buildup) kills” so be sure to find your release. Women, you may not have sperm but I think you know it is not just a guy thing. 🙂
SEX…Why is that such a taboo word? When are we as society going to realize the benefits of this amazing act and stop judging each other? One thing I always taught my children is that sex is not something to take for granted but to enjoy every minute you get. From the beginning to the climax and even the moments after. We need to escape from ourselves during sex. I have found recently that most people are just going through the motions and not truly letting go, due to the fear of being judged.
I talk very openly about sex and some think that is crazy. I am not ashamed of it and I believe by hiding it is saying it is a bad thing. When you truly enjoy something you talk about it right? When I played softball I talked about it and told people what it was I enjoyed about it. I would teach those who wanted to know how I did certain things. Just like with Crafts and Cooking. So if I can talk to people about those things, why can’t I talk as openly about sex? I feel that my openness has opened others’ eyes a bit and this is what I enjoy doing.
When we give ourselves permission to enjoy the pleasures of sex we find that there are so many benefits to it:
I don’t know about you but these are very good reasons to enjoy the benefits of sex. If you don’t have a partner in your life, there is truly nothing wrong with self-pleasure. If you don’t already you need to start. The benefits truly outweigh the negatives you could possibly think of. I know that by letting go of inhibitions during intimacy many doors open. You burn calories, reduce your stress, improve blood pressure, oh yes and have a fantastic orgasm. Well isn’t that a benefit? If you have ever let go and had a real orgasm you completely understand what I mean and if you haven’t you have got to do it at least once. 🙂 We will talk about this in more detail in Posts to come but just take my advice on this, the first step is opening up and “allowing” yourself to enjoy all of it. Alone or with your partner. The first step is telling yourself that what you are feeling is GOOD.
I am a huge believer in toys, whether they are for you alone or for you and your partner. Why do I said that you ask? Why do kids play with toys? To spark their imagination right? Bringing a toy into the bedroom allows you to spark that imagination. Whatever your comfort level is where you start. If you aren’t comfortable with dildos or clit stimulators then you may want to start with role play first. Buy a mask, a costume, a sexy outfit, or a blindfold. If you are alone, start by putting on a Blindfold during masturbation. I know, I know…What? I am telling you, try it. Male or Female can benefit from this. Wearing a blindfold intensifies the other senses and enables you to shut out the visual stimulus. It will enable you to relax and enjoy yourself. You will feel silly at first. You need to let go and enjoy it. No one can see you, so don’t hold back.
Remember you are in control of your wants and desires. Don’t allow others to judge you for what you enjoy. Those that judge are only envious of the fact that you are able to let go and accept this thing so many others consider Taboo. Take the steps with me to open the eyes of those around us and show each other that sex is not bad, it is actually a great thing and you need to know what you enjoy before you can enjoy it with anyone else. Think about that next time you are feeling dirty because you start to think about sex more often than you do now. Open yourself up to the possibilities and again the benefits. You don’t have to be ashamed because you actually enjoy the pleasures of sex. Sex is NOT Taboo, it is EMPOWERMENT!!
Shame of our sexuality seems to be a huge obstacle in our really enjoying the pleasures that accompany sex. If you openly admit that you enjoy sex people judge you by that. In some circles sex is dirty and it is naughty to talk about. I believe that is why so many do not allow themselves the true pleasures and health benefits that accompany the actual act of sex. If you stop putting up the walls and thinking while in the act I believe you will enjoy it to it’s fullest.
When we hold back and worry about what others may be thinking or may think we hinder ourselves from letting go and really “allowing” ourselves to experience the amazing possibilities. Sex is the one time in your day where you should forget the stresses of the day and just escape for just a few moments. Let go of your inhibitions and just enjoy the benefits. Think of yourself for those few moments and “allow” yourself to enjoy everything about the moment. Some people tend to worry more about their partner but by enjoying ourselves we please our partner in the process.