Even in a healthy loving relationship there can be moments of weakness. The important thing is open communication between one another. When I say “open communication” I mean, OPEN!! Each of you have to feel safe talking to one another about any thoughts you many have. Often in relationships one partner or the other considers cheating because over time their likes and needs change and they worry if they tell their partner they won’t accept it. Insecurities are a strong emotion and it can hurt a relationship without either partner knowing the other is dealing with it. If we truly love and accept one another we should be open to each others fantasies as well. Make sure your partner knows that you love them and you won’t judge them. I recommend that you open the communication that allows each other to feel they can voice your individual fantasies as though you were cheating with your partner. Talk openly with them as if they were a stranger at times and you are telling them things they never knew. Strangely at times it is the excitement that is needed in someone. If you role play and act as though you are dating for the very first time and that you have to keep it quiet or your partner (who is actually this person of course) will find out. Often people cheat only because they want to feel that excitement of a new relationship or to have someone to just listen to them and give them undivided attention so the feel heard. You may not agree with this thought process but from my experience with married people online, the two common things I hear is that they aren’t connected sexually with their partner (male and female) and that they just can’t communicate and tell them the fantasies they have for fear of them not understanding. As I said, Cheat with your Partner and allow them to tell you their inner fantasies no matter how intense. If you two can’t discuss these things and come to a common agreement how can you have passion and true connection. Get out there and Cheat With Your Partner and Be each other’s fantasies!
I’m done living life to make others happy. This is my life to live. No one else has to be involved unless they choose to accept my choices and come along with me. If you aren’t onboard and don’t agree with my choices well guess what…We can agree to disagree and go our separate ways.
There is nothing wrong with acknowledging that you have out-grown relationships or passions. Our tastes change every seven years so it is very likely that you will grow away from some things and some people in your life. The healthiest way to handle this is to accept it. Remember that we don’t have to please everyone around us with our decisions. The only person in our lives we truly have to make happy is ourselves.
Now, I know some are going to say this is the most selfish way to live our lives and I just say, “Ok! And?” From the day we are born to the day we die the one person we have with us always is ourselves and the moment you realize you have to come first, you will start your journey to self-love. This in no way is to say that we need to be greedy, self-centered, or self-absorbed, but we have to be in touch with who we are as people and what our true likes and dislikes are in order to attract like minded individuals into our lives.
Why is it so difficult for us to accept that each of us are as unique as each of our fingerprints? We all have our individual gifts that are unique to us and we are each given the unique chemistry for our likes and dislikes that we can not control. When are we going to learn to accept one another for our differences rather than bash us and hurt one another because of them? Just because I like something and you don’t shouldn’t give you the right to hate me and hurt me because of it. What gives you the right to say your way is better than mine? When were you given the power to judge others for how they were born? Our choices are our own but our chemistry is ours to learn to live with. Those born a race, physical appearance or sexual preference which is different than yours is how they were made and makes them just as unique as you are. Why can we not just accept one another and love one another for everything each of us has to offer this world and stop searching for reasons to tear each other apart. Let’s stop the negativity and start loving one another for our individuality. These random acts of violence need to be stopped. Let’s start spreading random acts of KINDNESS!!
There are thorns of negativity all around us and we can’t always control them but we need to focus on being the beauty amongst the thorns of life. Just because there is negativity around us doesn’t mean we have to be negative. Stand out and rise above. Show others how beautiful the world would be if we focused on the positives and allowed the negative to dry up and wither away. If you don’t feed the negativity it will die away. Don’t allow your beauty to be over shadowed but the negativity of others. Be the Beauty Amongst The Thorns in your life!!