Do you ever wonder why people cheat? I have noticed in the past couple years that more people consider cheating than I ever realized. There are many reason why I believe people take the leap from fantasizing about being with another person to actually crossing the line and engaging in intimacy with another person other than their significant other. I will not justify the actually crossing of this line but I will only acknowledge that I can at time understand why someone would even consider it.

One primary reason I have heard from men is that it is against Human nature for a man to be monogamous.  Men are made to spread to procreate I am told.  They were never meant to be with only one woman.  I am not sure I buy into this but I do understand that it is easy to get bored in a relationship if is allowed to smolder and not fanned to keep the fire burning.

Another reason I hear is the one I have spoken of in previous posts.  There often becomes a time in a relationship that one partner or the other decides to withhold sex as punishment from their significant other.  This happens with both sexes but I see women withholding much more often than men.  I will admit there was a time in my life where I thought I understood this method, but all this does is deprive both parties.  Sex is a great way to relieve stress and build intimacy between two people.  During those times where you would think you might hold back should really be the time where you insist on it.  It creates a bond, releases stress, and boosts the confidence of both parties.

Yet another reason I have notice is the loss of attraction for one another.  This I firmly believe happens primarily because of a lack of communication between the two parties.  If one person loses the spark for the other they need to be able to discuss this with the other so that they may work together to determine how they can rekindle that spark.  If the person just keeps this to them self in fear of hurting the other’s feelings and they chose to just go out and find the spark elsewhere, in the end don’t they end up hurting them both?

If a relationship is going to last both partners need to be willing to work together to be each other’s fantasy.  You both have your daily lives and have work and children possibly to manage but you have to also remember to take time for each other to communicate what is missing and what is also working in your intimacy.  If one partner is in need for spice then role play is a great way to give them a taste of that without having to have them go out searching for it.  You need to be each other’s fantasies in the bedroom.  Men, this does not only go for your women.  If you expect your woman to be your fantasy you need to take the time to find out exactly what it is she fantasizes about as well.  Instead of searching outside your partnership, create the fantasy inside it and “cheat” with each other from time to time. Enjoy each other.