We have two chances at a Parent/Child Relationship first as the child and then if we are lucky enough, as the parent. I am not sure either is easy. Two individuals with their own independent views can’t always see eye to eye. As a child, we often look up to our parents, believing they are perfect until that image is shattered by some event. We don’t understand until much later when we mature that we are all imperfect and we just have to accept our imperfections and learn to build up our strengths and surround ourselves with those with strengths that we have as weaknesses.
Once we grow up and become parents of our own we have another opportunity to have that Parent/Child Relationship. It is up to us to take those lessons we learned and try to teach our children from them, knowing that they may not really get it until they are parents themselves but be comfortable enough that we know we are guiding them properly. We can’t be selfish and emotional when it comes to teaching. It has to come from a grounded place and we have to not judge our children for their imperfections but not enable them either.
Guide our youth so they can become the adults we will be proud of later. Acknowledge that they may not do everything as you would but you should accept their paths and try to guide them when you are given the opportunity without judging. You never know if their way can teach them something that will take them even further than you ever imagined. In the end we have to be their role models and realize that is the only thing in our control.
It is a parent’s responsibility to love and care for their child, but also to prepare the child for adulthood. I’m not a perfect parent, but I try to teach my children everything they can possibly absorb. I do not live my life vicariously through my children. I encourage them to pursue anything they express interest in to the best of their abilities. It is awesome when they discover an interest that is also mine, but is equally awesome when the excel at something of their own choosing. Children need to be taught basic human functions to survive in the adult world: cooking, cleaning, laundry, basic auto repair, money management, respect and tolerance for others, manners, job seeking skills and more. We live in a gender neutral society and old fashioned, sexist, ideas of gender roles is outdated. All children need to be taught the same skills.
Reblogged this on David Snape and Friends and commented:
Just beautiful. Love the picture too. Made me smile.