Do you listen when your inner voice is putting out red flags when you are in any type of relationship? All too often we ignore these red flags for fear of being alone or being thought of as too picky! We all know that no one person is perfect so there will never be a person you have everything in common with or they don’t have at least one trait that you grit your teeth or bite your tongue! This is normal but when there are many things and you find yourself making excuses or you find yourself getting upset with that person for something that is just part of who they are…instead of trying to change that person or continuing to allow the resentment grow maybe before it goes on too long, you need to walk away and set each other free! This may sound harsh but this world is full of bad marriages and angry people because people can’t identify and be honest from the beginning and then feelings get hurt the longer it goes on! Be strong and only accept the best for yourself and walk away from what you know isn’t!
We have two chances at a Parent/Child Relationship first as the child and then if we are lucky enough, as the parent. I am not sure either is easy. Two individuals with their own independent views can’t always see eye to eye. As a child, we often look up to our parents, believing they are perfect until that image is shattered by some event. We don’t understand until much later when we mature that we are all imperfect and we just have to accept our imperfections and learn to build up our strengths and surround ourselves with those with strengths that we have as weaknesses.
Once we grow up and become parents of our own we have another opportunity to have that Parent/Child Relationship. It is up to us to take those lessons we learned and try to teach our children from them, knowing that they may not really get it until they are parents themselves but be comfortable enough that we know we are guiding them properly. We can’t be selfish and emotional when it comes to teaching. It has to come from a grounded place and we have to not judge our children for their imperfections but not enable them either.
Guide our youth so they can become the adults we will be proud of later. Acknowledge that they may not do everything as you would but you should accept their paths and try to guide them when you are given the opportunity without judging. You never know if their way can teach them something that will take them even further than you ever imagined. In the end we have to be their role models and realize that is the only thing in our control.