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There are thorns of negativity all around us and we can’t always control them but we need to focus on being the beauty amongst the thorns of life. Just because there is negativity around us doesn’t mean we have to be negative. Stand out and rise above. Show others how beautiful the world would be if we focused on the positives and allowed the negative to dry up and wither away. If you don’t feed the negativity it will die away. Don’t allow your beauty to be over shadowed but the negativity of others. Be the Beauty Amongst The Thorns in your life!!
We all start out as caterpillars. We’re not born as the flying butterfly soaring through the sky. The caterpillar sees the world from the ground up. It explores the foundation in order for it to have the experiences of starting at the bottom before it flies high to the top of any mountain. If we want to get the opportunity to earn our wings we must survive life on the ground and then we must take the time to “cocoon” in order to transform to the flying butterfly. Never discount the importance of these two phases of your life. Do not be in a rush to become the butterfly or you will not develop completely and many end up with holes in your wings. Take every moment of your life in stages and don’t try to rush through it as each step is important to the final goal.
Something I have learned about myself is that after I go through stressful times, I have to make sure I take personal time out and recharge my batteries or I can spin into a depressed state. I think most of us do this but being able to identify this in ourselves and take action is the key. Putting ourselves first and taking care of our own needs has to be priority. If you let yourself get worn down you are no good to yourself or anyone else. Make sure you are taking care of you today and recharging those internal batteries as needed. You are the Only YOU that You have!! HUGS
There is a great project I have seen on YouTube by a few different people that has inspired me. This project is The Beautiful Project and it shows how telling others they are beautiful changes them instantly. There is something beautiful in us all but we often can’t see it until someone else points it out. Be that inspiration to someone everyday. Step outside of you comfort zone and appreciate the beauty in a stranger. Go up to someone you don’t know and compliment them on one thing and tell them how beautiful they are. Imagine how amazing this world would be if we all started focusing on the beauty around us and less of the ugly. We all have beauty to share and when it is acknowledged by others it gives us the permission we need to shine. Give those around you the permission they seek to be the amazing beauty they may be hiding or not seeing for themselves…YET!!
Why put off til tomorrow what you can do today? Are you procrastinating from accepting your present and achieving your future? Are you afraid to finally let go of your past? Procrastination is a disease that takes hold if not controlled! Stop saying, “I promise to stop procrastinating tomorrow.” Do it today and make your future as amazing as you truly deserve. Make Procrastination a dirty word in your vocabulary and wash it away!
We often get upset with others for taking advantage of us but when you step back and truly assess…You will find that in actuality we have ourselves to blame! If you only continue to give without the self-respect of knowing your worth and not allowing yourself to be used and abused, then how will you be taken advantage of! Be sure you are demanding what you expect in return but never expect more than you are willing to give!
When things happen in our past that hurt us physically or emotionally many often choose to live in silence instead of speaking up! One thing that I have learned first hand, is how that silence does more harm than good! By keeping silent and feeling shame, you remain the victim instead of becoming the survivor. Be strong and acknowledge these pains and allow the past to heal you instead of holding you back. Love yourself enough to tell your inner child or past you at whatever again that it is ok to let go of this pain and that you refuse to be the victim and instead choose to accept who you are and look to achieve the amazing future of your choosing.
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Do you know people around you with these traits on a regular basis? We all do and when working to live a positive life if can test us everyday and we may actually question ourselves at times. Just know this is their personalities to manage not yours. Be sure to identify these people in your lives and don’t allow them to define you. These people tend to make us feel we are the negative ones and the ones with the problem, hence the projection so they don’t have to face their own faults. Once you recognize this you will be able to stop enabling them and finding positivity within yourself.
The best things you can do for yourself is to know your worth and not accept less than that. We all have high value and to allow others to treat us like we don’t deserve the best is wrong. Take the time to acknowledge your worth before someone comes along and treats you like an item broke and left on the Clearance Rack at the Discount Store. You are the only one that truly knows you and when you take pride in all you have to offer, you will present yourself accordingly. Then your value goes through the roof. Think Supply and Demand: Confidence and Self- Esteem are attractive qualities and actually rare to truly find. People will give anything to be with someone that knows who they are and what they are worth and will strive to do whatever it takes to become the person worthy of such a person. If they’re not willing to do that, then they aren’t worth your time, in my not so humble opinion. Know your worth and you will attract others who deserve all you have to offer.
HUGS are very important in everyone’s health and growth. Share them whenever you can:
Health
Understanding
Growth
Strength
Think of HUGS as therapy. Even when you don’t know it you can help someone who is battling something you have no knowledge of. HUGS are free and worth more than anyone can possess.
I apologize for the abrupt end and the sun in my face. The weed trimmer turned on in the background but the content is here. This one just needed to be done outdoors. Please submit your comments and feedback down below or on my AskVix Page. I look forward to hearing from you, good and bad. HUGS
We often hold on to things that we need to throw out. “Out with the Old and In with the New,” I say. If you have items in your life that hold negative energy, you need to let them go. Holding on to the Old Negativity leaves less room for all the New Positivity waiting for you in the future. Let them go and open up to Positivity.
Yesterday is behind you and Tomorrow is ahead, Today is the only day You can control. Are you going to Live it looking behind you or taking charge and moving towards a great Tomorrow?
Click the Link above for my first ever Vlog. Please be sure to submit your questions and suggested topics on my AskVix Page and check back frequently for my responses. I look forward to many Vlogs to come. Hugs
You’ve heard the phrase, “Those in Glass Houses should not throw stones,” right? Well how often do you see this metaphor manifest into reality? All too often people fail to accept that they aren’t perfect and should by no means be judging how others live their lives. We should all focus on our own surroundings and choices before we decide it is our place to cast the perverbial stone inside their own glass house. We all have made our own fair share of mistakes and life so when we decide to start passing judgment on those that are finding their own way.
When you live a Positive Life, it is not Black or White. There are many many shades of Grey. You can’t force everyone to see things exactly the same and say you are living a Positive Life. Positivity is varying shades for each of us. Absolutes create Negativity because that is requiring everyone around us to think exactly the same and that is not positive at all. By opening your heart and mind to all the possibilities you encourage yourself to expand your limits and you are able to see things from other angles that you may have missed previously. Don’t be afraid of change and allow yourself to witness the world from the view of those around you. See the Greys of Positivity and open the doors of possibilities.
We have two chances at a Parent/Child Relationship first as the child and then if we are lucky enough, as the parent. I am not sure either is easy. Two individuals with their own independent views can’t always see eye to eye. As a child, we often look up to our parents, believing they are perfect until that image is shattered by some event. We don’t understand until much later when we mature that we are all imperfect and we just have to accept our imperfections and learn to build up our strengths and surround ourselves with those with strengths that we have as weaknesses.
Once we grow up and become parents of our own we have another opportunity to have that Parent/Child Relationship. It is up to us to take those lessons we learned and try to teach our children from them, knowing that they may not really get it until they are parents themselves but be comfortable enough that we know we are guiding them properly. We can’t be selfish and emotional when it comes to teaching. It has to come from a grounded place and we have to not judge our children for their imperfections but not enable them either.
Guide our youth so they can become the adults we will be proud of later. Acknowledge that they may not do everything as you would but you should accept their paths and try to guide them when you are given the opportunity without judging. You never know if their way can teach them something that will take them even further than you ever imagined. In the end we have to be their role models and realize that is the only thing in our control.
Yes Garfield, you are so right on…Lol! It’s all about your outlook. The more you call yourself flawed, in anyway, the negativity sets in and makes it that much more difficult to address the problem. Find your positive and remember you are beautiful inside and then you can let the positivity shine outward. Tell yourself when you have your “Winter Coat” on and it’s not wanting to be shed, that you are just too short for your weight. Stand tall and see yourself how you want yourself and make it happen.
We need to Learn from our Past, but not Live by It. Reflect on what you’ve been through and learn from the events good and bad. When you dwell on the past and continue to relive it over and over you continue to repeat the cycle unintentionally. It becomes habit and you have to break those bad habits to achieve your intended future. Remember how we are taught new things it is often by repetition, so if you are repeatedly making the same unhealthy choices you are going to teach yourself that is how things are to be. Break the cycle and acknowledge those bad habits and break them now. Learn from It, Now Live Life in the Positive.
On my birthday I try to reflect on all I have in my life and all I am thankful to have accomplished in the last year. This last year has been an amazing one in my own self growth. This has been a year in which I got in touch with my positive core and took the initiative to cut out the negativity from my life. Some things others may not have seen as negative but for me to identify them as items that were constantly bringing negativity in to my life that was what was important. This doesn’t make those things or people bad just not good for me. We all have a purpose in this world and if we choose to allow negativity to continue to fester in our world that is up to us. It is my choice to keep myself away from these eliments and in this year I have learned how much of a difference in my everyday emotional well-being it has made. Find what makes you truly happy.
In the next year I hope to grow and take VixTalks to the next level and share all that I have to share with those who are open to the amazing life of positive thinking. Hang in there with me and together I think we can show one another an amazing world. Hugs to all…~Vix~
Ask yourself, are you a Worrier or a Warrior? Worriers live in the negative, constantly focused on the “what ifs” and building negative energy in their lives. Then there are the Warriors. Warriors fight for what they want and make things happen by believing in the positives. Be a Warrior, Not a Worrier! Fight for the Positives!!
Happy Father’s Day to all the Fathers, Step-Fathers and the Mothers that are having to fill both roles. You are the role models for the children around you. Take that responsibility with great honor and show those children how to truly Love and Live. Show them positivity and tell them how negativity hurts them and those around them. Guide them and treasure them. HUGS ~Vix~
Get ready for it…
I’m working to take VixTalks to Video. I will be giving advice to letters I receive here on my AskVix Page, Facebook, email and of course Live!!
Bring it…
Need a Pep Talk?
Need Motivation to take life to the next level?
Have questions about Special Needs Advocacy?
Have relationship questions?
Want to expand your sex life?
Just need a friend’s advice about everyday life?
I’m ready to “Talk,” so bring on the questions and we’ll take them Live or if you prefer, in private messages. Let’s have fun and find that Positivity and Inspiration we all need. HUGS ~Vix~
As Children we are all extremely vulnerable to Negativity. If a child tells their parent they want to dance and their parent responds with something like, “Why do you want to dance? You’re too fat to dance.” Those two sentences can make a very negative impact on a child. The child looks to the parent as ” All Knowing”, if they think they’re fat then often they start seeing themselves that way no matter how the look. Same when an adult tells a child they’re stupid or a moron. This can play a huge part in that child’s self-image.
As adults, we need to learn to think before we speak to our children. Chose our words wisely and start boosting their self-image by using positivity and not allowing negativity to take root in our children.
We all start out life a larva and continue to grow. We live our lives as a caterpillar for many years to find who we are inside before we then wrap ourselves in a cocoon of our own love. When we emerge we are each a Beautiful Butterfly! You have to love yourself first!
I am asked quite often if I am a religious person. I am spiritual more than religious. I believe I have a reason for being here and there is a higher guiding force that I have no concept truly of. I know that things happen in our lives that we have no control of and we need to learn from them, the good and the not so good. We all have our own ways of acknowledging this force and I will never tell you or anyone else what the best way to live your life is for you. I believe that my thoughts are heard and that if I take the time to actually listen, then they are guided and often answered. You may call this prayer but whatever label you put on it it is my way. I know that I am heard regardless off being in a specific building with others listening to people who have words of wisdom to share regularly. What is spoken is up to you to translate. Every person in that building can hear the exact same words but each take away a little different meaning.
Don’t judge others for their beliefs. We all process things differently and if organized religion is your way to tap into your higher force, you have my support and encouragement. All I ask in return is that you respect my choice to believe that my higher power hears me just as well as yours. I can be out in nature at the river or the ocean or just sitting in my room and if I take the time to ask for guidance and then wait and listen for the answer,I will get it. It may not be immediate but it will happen.
This topic was prompted by a conversation that my girlfriend and I were having the other night. We hear about men having blue balls when they get worked up sexually and then are not given an outlet to relieve themselves right? Is this really something that only happens to men? I really don’t believe it is. I think women get what I guess I will call “Red Ovaries” as we get hot and ready to explode. Urban Dictionary calls it “The Blue Bean”:)
I mean come on now, I know some females that are passionate and get aroused the same as men and it may not be “painful” like the pressure in a man’s testicles but let me tell you from experience that if a woman gets herself really worked up it is painful and very emotional. Haha Those women that actually allow themselves to enjoy the release of an orgasm who are brought right to the edge and not given the release, I have witnessed that it is very emotional and can even be painful in I am sure a different way.
I am no doctor so I am not sure what the medical reason is but I thought it was kind of interesting when my girlfriend and I were talking and she made a comment that she gets left hot and bothered like a male and I realized it wasn’t just my inner Vixen, it is other women as well. This is not only the “The Blue Bean” as described in Urban Dictionary cause that is only over stimulation of the clitoris without release, which in itself is damn painful. The feeling I am referring to is actually internal in the area of the Ovaries hence “Red Ovaries!”
So, guys it’s not just you, sorry!! You just are more visual than we are so you get worked up a bit easier than we do. You have to take the time to stimulate our minds and our bodies. When you do…Oh My!!!
Have you taken time recently to listen to your inner voice? I believe we all have the power within us to solve problems that are thrown our way but we often allow pride, or guilt or stubbornness to get in the way of finding our answers.
Not all the answers are what we think we want to hear either. I have started to trust my instincts, or what I call my Inner Voice, much more these das. In doing so I feel so much more at peace. I am not saying it is perfect cause hey I still second guess myself, but more times than not when I do the outcome is not the best one.
I recently listened to the book, “Writing Down Your Soul: How to Activate and Listen to the Extraordinary Voice Within” by Janet Conner. I was overwhelmed at times during the book how much of what she was saying in the book is the practice I had learned to do with my blog. She recommends writing daily but that is more in Journal format. I have done similar work with writing thoughts I have inside me on this blog and I am amazed at time when I surrender myself to the words how easily they come. At times I am not sure where the words are truly coming from.
Open yourself up to You Own Inner Voice and see what they have been trying to tell you. You may be amazed like I was on the insight you have buried and often blocked inside you. We are all created equal so we all have these gifts that sometimes we just have to allow ourselves to accept.
Life can be hazy at times but when the haze clears it is truly amazing the things
you couldn’t see before. Don’t just look down or in front of you, be sure to look UP…
The sky is the limit and you have to reach through the clouds at times.
Have only one “Accepted” Negative in your life…
Your Negative feelings toward Negativity!!!! ~Vix~
Our Roots are what keeps us grounded or makes us vulnerable. It is up to you if baring them is going to strengthen you or if it will become a weakness. You can dig deeper and search for your strength down deep inside or you can a can just sit back and watch them wither and get weak. What do you choose?
Have you ever thought of our lives like the branches of a tree? All of us reaching towards the sun but all in different directions crossing over each other even but striving to get our own dosage of the light. Others can often shade your view but in time you can get all that you require.
When you stop worrying about how others think of you and just live a happy positive life that you can be proud of, the rest falls into place. Be what your heart and conscience tells you. That doesn’t mean go out and be immoral, it means to think positivity when making your choices. Love yourself for the person you have inside not what those percieve you to be by reputation. If you don’t like how others see you, change the view. 🙂
Thanksgiving…A Day for “Giving Thanks” for all we are given to be truly thankful for. This special day is set aside once a year for us to make sure that we take some time to really remember all that we have to be thankful for even if we try to do it throughout the year. This one day where we spend time with those we love and reach out to those we aren’t able to physically be with.
I want to take a moment to acknowledge the things I am thankful for:
- My family and friends are first: I have surrounded myself with some amazing people. Some have been with me for my entire life and some only a short time but I feel as though I have known them forever. We choose the people we involve ourselves with. If you have people in your life the bring you down and carry only negativity with them you need to look at yourself and wonder what is the positive things about these people that keeps you keeping in touch with them. There must be a reason you choose to continue to have these people have a hold on you. Maybe it is that you are there to show them that there are good things in the world and they need to find their positives. You may also not be allowing yourself to let go of the negatives in your life completely yet, if this is the case you truly need to think how damaging that energy is to you.
- My career and passions: I am thankful for the gift that I have been given to be “The Fixer”. I love being able to go in to an assignment fix the problem someone has and then move on to the next assignment. I love my writing and my photography for the gifts it allows me to give to others and in return to myself. I am so thankful to have found a balance in my life when it comes to these things in my life. I truly hope that my writing and the pictures I share are a gift to others and that they can help a few to find the positives and beauty in the world they may have missed until that moment.
There are so many things I am thankful for and I would just bore you in time writing about them all so I will spare you all. Just remember that you all have something to offer to this world and you need to find it and be thankful for it, whatever that gift may be. I treasure my friendships be they in person or online, I am truly blessed to have been given the opportunity to meet some amazing people and to learn more and more about them and in return more about myself and who it is I am to become. Open your minds to all the possibilities and truly be THANKFUL for all you are given. HUGS to you my friends!! Happy Thanksgiving to you all!! ~Vix~
Today I write to give you the best update I could have ever imagine writing. My friend Joe got the results of his tests and closure to yet another chapter of his life. I am happy to announce that he has the opportunity to start a new chapter that I truly believe could be his most incredible chapter. He has grown so much during this experience and has truly learned to no longer be the victim of his past and to let go of all that negative energy that can truly fester and become like that Cancer he was battling. I am not saying that it was all Positive thinking or the Power of a good support system and friends/family that care but those things surely gave this man the strengthen and purpose to live and that can never be discounted.
This man was told to get his affairs in order and that he would not live more than 8 months and in 3 months he is now CANCER FREE, and has a new outlook on his life. He has a passion for life and a purpose. This man who just was ready to die and be out of pain is now ready to fight bigger battles and is realizing he was given this chance to do something that will make a difference to so many. I am honored to have been chose to serve with this man during this battle. I now realize my part.
I was brought to him to make him see how the negativity was tearing him apart and that he is the survivor not the victim any longer. When he talked about giving up my mission was to refocus the negative energy and to get him back on target quickly so that he could continued to grow stronger to fight.
We have only started our journey as friends to share this news and to show anyone who will listen that by holding onto negative memories it weakens us and allows us to become susceptible to even more negativity in our lives. Let go us this go from our past that could truly become the Big C of your life. HUGS Everyone!!!
Bad things happen to good people. The worst thing you can do to yourself is assume that everyone out there is going to hurt you just because one person did. The best thing we can chose to do for ourselves is to learn that we have to accept that most people have good intentions but mistakes get made and we take the chance of getting hurt every moment of our lives.
Here is my Positivity Jar that I used last year as a trial. I found the idea on Pinterest and thought it was an interesting novelty. I had gone through significant changes during the previous year and knew I needed something to remind me that I have positives in my life as well.
I decided I was going to start my own “Positivity Challenge” on New Year’s Day. I even posted it on Facebook and decided that every day, no matter how my day was, I had to think of at least one positive thing, write it down, and put it in the jar. This may seem easy to do but not so when your mind is full of primarily negativity.
I couldn’t believe how difficult it was to just find one positive thing in the beginning. I literally had to force myself to really think about. About 6 months in it just got easier and easier and by the end of the year I was writing multiple things daily and there honestly was far less negativity in my thoughts and I felt amazing.
For those of you still living in the world of the negative, I challenge you to try this for one year. If after that year you don’t feel that your thoughts gravitate more toward the positives and less toward negative, I want to hear from you. Are you in?
You can’t blame those around you for your Negativity if you continue to allow those around you to be Negative. Surround yourself with Positive Energy and those around you will either join you or you don’t need their Negative Energy around you. By making this decision to live a more Positive Life you have to accept that you will lose touch with some but the Positive is that you will gain new that will only enhance your Positive Energy and strengthen you. Always remembering the Positive Energy Brings Positive Results. Hugs to you all!! ~Vix~
While sitting in a Senior High School Class listening to a couple guest speakers talk about their son being molested by their babysitter, I had an unusual feeling of understanding come over me that I somehow knew the pain and confusion this child must have been feeling. Feeling that no one understood what you were dealing with and the deep ache to rid yourself of an unknown secret. I really didn’t know why I had these feelings, but I sat in that classroom almost in tears and amazement on how these people were talking so freely about this traumatic event in their son’s life. Luckily this was the last real class I had that day because I was not able to focus on anything but the words these people talked about and how they were very clear that this is not the “Victims” fault that these people do these things. They also explained that if we knew anyone who had or was being hurt by someone we needed to speak up and not allow them to continue to make that person or yourself the victim any longer.
I walked around in a fog most of the rest of the afternoon and into the evening. I had trouble going to sleep that night with strange thoughts running through my head. Once I finally fell asleep I was restless and the next thing I knew I awoke screaming, “NO! STOP! YOU’RE HURTING ME!” The memories came flooding back to a horrible night in my life that I had somehow blocked from my subconscious. It was now back and I was never going to forget it again.
I had been molested with inappropriate touching and actions by a man close to our family. He made threats that I would be hurt or that my family wouldn’t believe me if I were to even tell them. This went on for several years and I just allowed this man to treat me like my feelings meant nothing. At age 12, I finally got the courage to stand up to this man and tell him “NO” and that I wouldn’t allow him to treat me like that ever again.
I thought that everything was going to stop and that I had finally been able to take control until I went to sleep that night. I awoke to the most excruciating pain and my head being forced into a pillow. I was on my stomach and I couldn’t move and at times could barely breathe while this grown man raped me and said horrible words to me while shoving my head further in the pillow so I couldn’t scream. I must have blacked out because I don’t remember anything after that.
From that day forward I was a different young lady. I went from being very outgoing and high spirited, to a tomboy and guarded. I wore clothing that didn’t flatter me as to not attract males. I became just one of the guys in my group of friends and started pushing those who were close to me away so that I couldn’t be hurt like that again. I didn’t speak of that night because I just remembered him telling me that no one was going to believe me. I eventually completely blocked it from my memory as a way to protect myself. I also felt there must have been something I had done to deserve this and that maybe I done something to encourage him. He made me a victim and by allowing that I empowered him.
This all came back to me 5 years later, yes I blocked this horrible event out of my memory for 5 years and all it did was tear me up from the inside and created insecurities and depression that I could not truly understand. I had thoughts of suicide and the feeling of just being completely alone and misunderstood. Once this all came back to me I decided I would never keep silent about it again. I pulled myself together and wrote it all down in an anonymous letter to the class, we had a drop box that was in the room that we could put questions in and the class would give their opinions and advice. I didn’t hold anything back in that letter, well nothing but my name of course. I asked if they could help me to determine what I needed to do next to overcome this and how I could stop from being this victim and now take control of my life, once again.
When I got to school that morning I dropped the letter in the box while no one was in the class and proceeded with my school day feeling a bit of the burden I had carried so long, lifted from me. When I arrived to class that afternoon the teacher was standing at the front of the class with his stool and asked everyone to please take their seats. I knew what was about to happen. We all sat down and he sat on his stool and proceeded to tell the class that he had something very serious to read to them and that their help was very important. I gathered all the strength I had in me and listened to the words read back to me that I had written that morning. It all truly became reality at that moment. There was no going back.
After the teacher read the letter he looked to the class for their words of wisdom and guidance. I continued to not show signs that the letter was from me and I even asked and answered questions. These students were so helpful and they didn’t even know that the person who wrote those words was me. We discussed how this is something that is history and by continuing to allow it to fester was only hurting me and holding me back from my future. They talked about how this is not something I did or could have stopped. We discussed that my taking a stand was a good thing even though it caused this to escalate. This was the man’s burden to bare not mine.
After class let out I walked up to the front of the class to talk to the teacher as I did every day. He looked at me and asked me how I thought he and the class had done with the letter. I responded, “You did great!” He said, “You think so?” I looked him in the eyes and said, “It helped a lot!” His eyes changed and started to fill with tears. “I didn’t know,” he said, with the tears starting to flow. I looked at him and said, “I know that is why you helped so much.” If he would have known it was me he may have not been so open about his responses. He gave me a hug and for the first time in many years felt the warmth in another person’s hugs without being scared.
I will leave this story with this for now and will continue with stories that came from me deciding that I was not going to continue to be the victim of this man and that I would never be silent about it again. All being silent did was hurt me and the negativity of the secret was like a cancer in me and was just spreading and once I refused to allow it anymore my life changed. I won’t tell you it was always perfect after that day but it was the strength that I pulled from and continue to pull from today when things get rough.
In closing, don’t read this post and pity me for what happened in my past. My past is my foundation and what made me the strong independent person I am today. I want to share this story so that maybe I can reach others that are going through, or have gone through, similar times. Maybe, just maybe, you can see that you are not alone and you too can find the strength to be “THE VICTIM NO MORE”.
~Vix~
Take control of your life and those around you will admire you for it. Leadership doesn’t mean controlling others but controlling yourself. Dig deep inside you and find your inner Leader and guide those around you to be more positive and in return happier in their lives. You don’t have to be monetarily rich to be emotionally rich in your life. Take charge and rid yourself of the negativity that holds you back and fill that void with positive energy. ~Vix~
Just because something bad has happened to you once does not mean it will continue to impact your life, unless of course you don’t let it go and put it in your past. Bad things happen to good people. If you allow that to become what defines you it will continue to eat at your core and become you and then you become the victim. You have to Acknowledge, Accept and Achieve.
First step to facing your past is to Acknowledge it. Acknowledge what has happened to negatively impact your future. Stop hiding it and most of all stop hiding from it. If you made bad choices acknowledge them. If you were abused acknowledge that they were the ones that were bad, not you. If you made decisions you regret, acknowledge the mistake. You are only the victim as long as you allow yourself to be so.
Next you need to Accept the reality that you cannot change the past. Accept that your past is History and History cannot be changed but by accepting it you can learn from it and move forward. If you keep reliving the past over and over all you do is continue to stuck and you are not able to move forward to the life you are meant to live. Accepting your Past will allow you to release the guilt of it and in return allow you to no longer be the victim.
The final and my favorite step is to Achieve Positivity. Once you are able to Acknowledge and Accept your Past you can release all the negativity that stays trapped inside you and you are able to Achieve a life of Positive Energy. As I always remember, “Positive Energy Brings Positive Results”. In you future you are destined to be the Hero of your life not the Victim.
Take charge of your life today and never allow your past and those that may have hurt you to make you a victim forever. You need to rise above; Acknowledge, Accept, and most importantly Achieve!! You deserve happiness and only you can require that in your life.
In life we all wear masks to hide behind until we find what we are really looking for, but in doing this we tend to hide our true selves and prevent what we are looking for from finding us. If you want things in life you have to not be afraid to be yourself and go through many others that haven’t found the strength to do the same. Maybe just being real and putting down the masks you can show those looking for you what they could have easily just walked right past. Don’t be afraid of who you are or not being enough for anyone else. The one that has been searching for you will want the real you, not a you that you have created to hide behind.
“The Fixer” is that person whom people seem to just be able to talk to. They don’t have to offer their help cause it is just who they are and people sense it. “The Fixer” just has this way of knowing what is wrong and has a way of reading people. They seem to just go with their instincts and people feel so comfortable opening up to them. “The Fixer” somehow is able to listen, analyze and turn around and give guidance without even knowing how.
All my life I have been “The Fixer”. I love helping others to work through things and find solutions. I thrive for the honor to help others find the answers they are looking for. I enjoy talking to people and listening to what they are going through in their lives and then working together to find the right path to take them on to their future.
When I was in high school I remember the day when another student that I had never met before come up to me at my locker and asked me if they could talk to me. I was a little taken back but I said, “of course, how can I help?” She proceeded to tell me of a problem she was having and I listen but also thinking to myself why would a stranger be talking to me about stuff this personal? When she finished telling me what she was dealing with she asked if I had any advice for her. I remember looking at her with compassion and talking to here about what I would suggest she do about the situation. I was amazed how after we talked for a bit how the look in her eyes seemed to change from sorrow to almost relief. As she started to walk away that day I stopped her and asked, “Why did you come to me with this?” She smiled and said because people always talked about me and how I was always very open-minded and caring and there was something in my smile and eyes that she just felt comfortable talking to me. This simple statement changed the way I saw myself, I realized that day that I needed to someday work with others somehow.
Some people see “The Fixer” as someone who takes on other people’s problems and hides from their own. I have never been that person. By helping others I open my eyes a little more to myself and allow myself to grow from these experiences. We can not all learn from each other if we truly listen and stop judging each other for our flaws and short-falls.
I have another friend that I met on a social media site that when we started chatting he was going through a tough time in his life and we started talking and I shared with him my B-A-B-Y-S-T-E-P-S process. I reminded him that he needed to take his time and not try to make rush decisions. We talked a lot about his situation and how he didn’t want to do the wrong thing for his son but he needed to be happy himself. I explained that if he just remembered B-A-B-Y-S-T-E-P-S it would all fall into place. We talk frequently and it is wonderful for me to hear how well he is doing on his own with his son now and they have a fantastic relationship and that is truly because he always put his son’s needs before his own. Most people would find it strange to get so close to people they have never met. Have over a year now of talking to this man we have never met in person but through out communications we have become friends. He is the first to point out that I had “The Fixer” personality. I truly did not know what that meant until then.
I have embraced “The Fixer” title and find it an honor to be able to connect with so many amazing people and to have a small part in helping them to get through difficult times and complicated decisions. I know I don’t have all the answers but I love being able to share my views and opinions with so many and play my part in guiding through tough and sometimes great moments in their lives.
On Thanksgiving I like to take a moment and think of all the positives in my life. This year I am very thankful for my amazing support system and my family. We all take for granted what we have and often forget to take a moment and really appreciate the good things in our lives.
Take a minute today and just reflect on the good in your life. Things get rough at times, but when you take time to think about the good that happens you can get through the rough patches so much easier. Be happy with what you have and appreciate every moment you are given with your friends and family.
Now go enjoy that turkey!! 🙂
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