Are you being held hostage by your past? Do you feel that your hands are restrained and your mouth is taped? Afraid to call out for fear of your captor hearing you and coming in and beating you down again and again? We all have a past and we all have to stop fearing the repercussions of talking about it and what society may think or say about you. Your past is your past and once you overcome your past you can finally live your future out of captivity. SCREAM, PUNCH, FIGHT BACK…Stop allowing your past mistakes or torments to restrain you. You have a life to live and a story to tell. Never forget that your story may be the one that allows someone else the courage to fight back themselves. Be the Survivor NOT THE VICTIM!!!
We live in a world of negativity because the negatives seem to be easier and much more entertaining. When we watch the news or the television in general we will never be short of drama and suspense. We seem to accept it in everything we see and do, so it is just the easiest between negative or positive. It takes a lot of work to be positive in today’s society and often people just stop trying instead of working for it. Take a moment and be sure we are pointing out a positive to at least every two negatives and preferably to every one.
Independence is a scary thing for some and all about freedom for others. We all translate independence in our own way. Not only about our political views. Some see it as they want to make their own rules, others as they just want to live how they chose to live, and even those that just want to not depend on others. However, this word impacts you is unique to you and that is why it is so important to embrace it. Fight for what it is that you want but in the process respect those around you . They are as unique as you are and deserve the right to have their independence, their own way. Be sure you are opening your mind enough to the needs of others in the process of taking charge of your own life. Our Own Indepence is unique to each of us and should be embraced and cherished. LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE INDEPENDENTLY!
Even in a healthy loving relationship there can be moments of weakness. The important thing is open communication between one another. When I say “open communication” I mean, OPEN!! Each of you have to feel safe talking to one another about any thoughts you many have. Often in relationships one partner or the other considers cheating because over time their likes and needs change and they worry if they tell their partner they won’t accept it. Insecurities are a strong emotion and it can hurt a relationship without either partner knowing the other is dealing with it. If we truly love and accept one another we should be open to each others fantasies as well. Make sure your partner knows that you love them and you won’t judge them. I recommend that you open the communication that allows each other to feel they can voice your individual fantasies as though you were cheating with your partner. Talk openly with them as if they were a stranger at times and you are telling them things they never knew. Strangely at times it is the excitement that is needed in someone. If you role play and act as though you are dating for the very first time and that you have to keep it quiet or your partner (who is actually this person of course) will find out. Often people cheat only because they want to feel that excitement of a new relationship or to have someone to just listen to them and give them undivided attention so the feel heard. You may not agree with this thought process but from my experience with married people online, the two common things I hear is that they aren’t connected sexually with their partner (male and female) and that they just can’t communicate and tell them the fantasies they have for fear of them not understanding. As I said, Cheat with your Partner and allow them to tell you their inner fantasies no matter how intense. If you two can’t discuss these things and come to a common agreement how can you have passion and true connection. Get out there and Cheat With Your Partner and Be each other’s fantasies!
I’m done living life to make others happy. This is my life to live. No one else has to be involved unless they choose to accept my choices and come along with me. If you aren’t onboard and don’t agree with my choices well guess what…We can agree to disagree and go our separate ways.
There is nothing wrong with acknowledging that you have out-grown relationships or passions. Our tastes change every seven years so it is very likely that you will grow away from some things and some people in your life. The healthiest way to handle this is to accept it. Remember that we don’t have to please everyone around us with our decisions. The only person in our lives we truly have to make happy is ourselves.
Now, I know some are going to say this is the most selfish way to live our lives and I just say, “Ok! And?” From the day we are born to the day we die the one person we have with us always is ourselves and the moment you realize you have to come first, you will start your journey to self-love. This in no way is to say that we need to be greedy, self-centered, or self-absorbed, but we have to be in touch with who we are as people and what our true likes and dislikes are in order to attract like minded individuals into our lives.