I have been doing a lot of personal analysis on my past recently during my ultimate healing process.  I realized that I seemed to have a lot of the same personalities around me.  Most of which become habits that I am having a hard time breaking.  I have a “Fixer” personality and I tend to want to help everyone I can.  This can become a negative when a majority of the people are broken themselves. I realized this is an unhealthy habit as these people are broken in their own way.  Old Habits are tough to break. In order to break them you have to truly recognize them and want to let them go. You may not even realize you are doing something until it is too late and then you sit back and notice the comparison to things you had done in the past. The goal is that once you recognize the pattern you address it and check what you can or get away from it completely if that is what is necessary.

We all have them but they can only be used against us when we try to hide them! If we can learn to embrace them we can grow from them and yearn them into our strength! Be strong and learn to embrace that which you feel makes you weak!

Knowing your limits and how much you can handle is the key to a long life.  We can push ourselves but knowing our individual breaking points is very important.  I tend to push myself to extremes at times and then once my energy is completely depleted do I get actually forced to recharge. We all have our breaking points and we truly have to know those limits.  Sometimes it takes us crossing that line and other times we just need to get too damn close to it.  Be in tune with your own inner voice and be sure to listen to it carefully.  We can often take it for granted and ignore it and then we pay the price.  All I am trying to say is, “Only You know YOU!” Don’t let others try to dictate what is best for you.  Take control, just live with in your limits.

Why can’t they approve tests for those who suffer with chemical imbalance like they do with diabetes or other chemical deficiencies? They should be able to test the chemical levels and know what they need at any given moment! Imagine if they could take a test like a diabetic. I know from experience with my son, they trial and error method is scary at times, especially with children that aren’t able to communicate how the medications are making them feel.  If we were able to take a quick test and know they needed a specific chemical that day and then give them only that and not all the unnecessary crap that they get given.  I know this isn’t as easy as I would like it to be but watching my son go through medically enduced rages and blackouts as a child was horrible and he was a very good communicator. I work with other parents that are trying to be their children’s advocate with the doctors and the school and the stories I hear bring me to tears.  When will we truly get these battling with Mental Illness what they need to take control of their illness so they feel strong and less like a zombie because that is their only option today? Raise awareness and find the answers to truly support those in need.

September is Suicide Awareness Month and in honor of our Military Vets who take their own lives due to PTSD and other Mental Illness I want to take a moment to share some facts with all of you. Did you know that, “In 2013, the United States Department of Veterans Affairs released a study that covered suicides from 1999 to 2010, which showed that roughly 22 veterans were committing suicide per day, or one every 65 minutes. Some sources suggest that this rate may be under-counting suicides.” Now how is this right.  These men and women give their lives for us and then because we don’t give them proper support and care they end up taking their own lives?  This is so wrong and has got to change.

We put money into all the wrong things and have lost touch with humanity when we put thousands of dollars into fancy cars and huge houses, but we can’t give to those who have given their lives for us to even afford these things. WE have to start focusing on what is important and taking care of one another. When are we going to take this seriously.  The statistics above tell a lot and we as a society have to start putting more into Mental Health and Suicide Prevention Awareness.  Let’s take control and make a change. For more details on Mental Health and Suicide Prevention you can also check out NAMI.org.  They are an organization wanting to do just that, make a change and spread awareness.

How do you think of weakness? Do you see it as debilitating? Or do you embrace it and learn from it to empower you? If you allow it to tear you down then it can truly become a handicap. You have to break down those weaknesses and analyze them. Find the core and tackle it at the roots. Our weaknesses can become our great strengths when we acknowledge them. 

Wow is it ever so important to search and find that place in your life that makes you feel content and happy. That place that you can go to when things are not making sense in your life that you can just relax your mind and body to search for answers.  It may be different places for different times. Don’t think you can only have one “Happy Place!” It is perfectly fine to have a few that each individually inspires you in different ways. Be sure you are opening your heart and your mind when searching for that “perfect” place for YOU.  If you only search with your eyes you may miss what you are truly searching for.

Do you ever feel as though you don’t fit in with those around you? Do you feel like the weird one even in your own family because maybe you have a positive attitude or you are highly focused on your future? Ever wonder why those around you just keep repeating the same cycles over and over and can’t see their way out but keep making you feel as though you are the one that is wrong? That is because you my dear friends are the rat that got out of the maze and instead of them following in your foot steps and finding their way out as well they are comfortable and would rather just pulling you back in with them.  Don’t allow them to make you feel you can’t survive outside the maze. Continue doing what you are doing and hope that in time they will see their way to the exit a well.

Are you being held hostage by your past?  Do you feel that your hands are restrained and your mouth is taped? Afraid to call out for fear of your captor hearing you and coming in and beating you down again and again? We all have a past and we all have to stop fearing the repercussions of talking about it and what society may think or say about you. Your past is your past and once you overcome your past you can finally live your future out of captivity. SCREAM, PUNCH, FIGHT BACK…Stop allowing your past mistakes or torments to restrain you. You have a life to live and a story to tell. Never forget that your story may be the one that allows someone else the courage to fight back themselves.  Be the Survivor NOT THE VICTIM!!!

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